I’m one of millions of people who have found it life-changing to start a regular, non-negotiable gym habit.
You might think we’re fans of it because of the physical results of losing some fat and feeling better. And to be sure, those are nice benefits and are likely what got a lot of us there in the first place.
But spend a good month of purposeful, dedicated work there and you’ll see there’s far more value in the psychological change than the physical.
Here are 6 ways the gym changes you on the inside
You are immediately forced to be honest with yourself.
Nothing was easier than telling myself “I’m probably decently strong” or “I’m more athletic/better conditioned than I actually look” when there were no metrics to prove me wrong. And any of us can look at somebody who’s accomplished at something (like fitness) and think “I could do that pretty easily if I really wanted to.”
One month in the gym destroys all such delusions. You find out right away that you’re farther away than you thought and it’s going to take way longer to get there than you realized.
But now that you have this knowledge, you’re unable to un-know it. You either live with it (a recipe for misery) or you keep going).
The better you are at honestly evaluating yourself, the better you are at diagnosing and finding solutions to your shortcomings. It’s a gym-bestowed skill that translates powerfully to everything else you do in life, too.
It puts something in your control
Yeah, the brutal honesty of those realizations hurt. And the timeline to better health was a lot longer than I was hoping. But I can do something about it.
Just show up, track my food and workouts, and keep going, and I’ll drop the pounds. Keep at it and I’ll build muscle. Keep at it long enough and I can do whatever I want with it.
In a world of learned helplessness, it’s this exact reason why so many point to a fitness journey as their path out of depression. Learning that you can control some things and then exercising that control is a game changer. And the more responsibility you take, the more ways you find to make an impact.
You learn to value your own time
Stepping into an actual gym with a full program in hand brought results slowly but surely. Within 6 months things were radically different. 20 months in I’m never going back to who I was before.
One big reason why is that I realized how much of my own time I wasted before.
I threw away a full decade of off and on spells of “trying to eat better” and “working out.” All kinds of miserable fasts and carb cuts and the like with nothing to show for it. Sweat dripping, muscle hurting workouts with few results. All because I threw what sounded good at the problem and didn’t have a plan or any way to track it.
Walking into the gym and seeing the discipline others brought to the craft was eye opening.
This is a lesson that carries through into so many areas in life. When you see how crucial it is to do your homework and know what you’re doing so you can build a system that works, you take that mindset into everything you do.
You learn to take nutrition seriously
A spin-off of the time wasting point. Go spend half an hour jogging on the treadmill, then come home and graze on two or three handfuls of chips. Boom, workout wasted. That’s way too much effort to throw away any not taking nutrition seriously.
Beyond that, you start to get a feel for the fuel you put in your body. When I was regularly consuming processed junk I didn’t think I felt bad. What did I even have to compare it to?
On this side of things there’s a very clear, noticeable difference in how bad I feel when I’m not eating well. And to think that was my daily operating mode for years? Take it seriously.
You find people to look up to
One of the real problems in our society is we do not appreciate accomplishments and experience. Who cares if somebody else does something great – “I could do it if I really wanted to,” we tell ourselves.
Realizing how hard it is to get in shape and how much time and discipline it takes is a seriously humbling process. And when you’re regularly around people who are clearly years ahead of where you are, that self-assured sense disappears.
You may have heard it said that you never want to be the smartest or most accomplished person in a room, because it builds pride and makes it easy to get complacent. Same concept.
Being around people you can respect and admit they are ahead of you is a key to growth.
You ditch a goal-oriented approach for a process-oriented one
“I want to lose weight.” Yeah, so does everybody else. What does that mean?
“Ok, I want to lose 20 lbs.” aok, how? And then what? How will you keep it off? Most people who lose weight regain it pretty quickly, so what’s your next step?
Once you get to the 20 you realize there’s still more work to do, and that’s discouraging. Goal-oriented growth is temporary, and that’s why it so seldom lasts.
The beauty of the gym is there is literally no finish line. It is not a game you can beat and move on. There is no weight or distance you can reach at which you’ve maxed it out and are done forever.
There’s no such thing as perfection or a finish line. You can view this as discouraging or motivating – it’s up to you.
It’s discouraging if you’re goal oriented and realize there’s no goal to reach. “I’m never going to get done.”
But it’s highly motivating if you realize there is literally no end to the ways you can improve. “I will always have another way to get better.”Given enough time and good health, there is nothing stopping you from getting better and better and better for years to come.
You decide your feelings on it, but for me, the possibilities created by the latter are incredible.
And, it’s yet another way the gym changes the way you approach life. I can get better at time management. I can make more money – not just a promotion or raise but through continual skill upgrades and opportunity creation. Given enough time in God’s good will, there’s very little limit to what all we can do if we just keep growing.
(Atomic Habits is the book to read on the process vs goal topic, if you’re interested in pursuing the idea further.)
This all probably sounds like some mix of obvious truths and dubious claims. But there’s literally only one way to find out if the changes are what I’m claiming they are.
Those who have been there will agree, I’m sure. Those who haven’t – ball’s in your court.
I’m challenging you fellas to give it a try, and if I can help on the journey then reach out any time. Check out my starter tips here.